active 1 week, 2 days ago
active 1 week, 2 days ago
  • Kyle replied to the topic Sticks and stones… in the forum General Chat 1 week, 2 days ago

    Equality for all members of a diverse society is not easily gained. Just as we’ve moved away* from times when women or black people were the recipients of discrimination, abuse and much else, we have to be just as intolerant of discrimation and abuse directed at other groups in society; whether that’s on the grounds of religion, ethnicity, disability, sexual orientation, whatever.

    There’s a fine line between good-natured banter between friends who know it’s not serious and the same comments directed at an outsider who may then feel threatened by what they consider to be abuse, or published in a newspaper by an Old Etonian who has a track record of saying unpleasant things and then claiming it’s ‘joshing’, or similar. Like walking across a frozen pond, you have to be very sure…[Read more]

  • Thanks for your support, much appreciated. Some good advice there. Unfortunately, due to my work, regularity is not easy to come by at the moment. We do need to get better at planning some fun activities to make the most of our time off together though.

  • Thanks, that’s a really great post. There are a couple of other issues I don’t want to go into on a public forum, but the foot and work-related issues seem t be the main things. I think it’s fairly mild rather than full-blown clinical depression, not that I’m any kind of expert. As you say, they are able to go to work and do some exercise. If you gave them a new foot and a dream job I think they would probably be back to normal pretty quickly. It’s just a recent change, mainly in the last couple of months, where their default mood seems to have gone from generally ok to feeling sad and lethargic that’s got me worried it could be developing into something worse.

  • Very true. My other half is generally very supportive and aware that I need to get out and do my on thing. Thanks.

  • They are pretty set against taking any medication, but just talking to a GP could help. Luckily drinking isn’t an issue as they are almost tee total.

    They’ve started to take up a couple of other activities, and are slowly getting fitter, although often it’s hard to get them motivated to get out, and I don’t want to push them too much.

    Thanks for your advice!

  • Thanks, they’re definitely not a gym person, although they did join the local gym. Membership is mostly sat there gathering dust!

  • We did talk about swimming, and they started doing some around new year, but that has pretty much dropped off. They have started doing a couple of other activities that are less foot intensive, which definitely improves their mood when I can persuade them out, but I don’t want to be too pushy and put them off.

    We’ve talked about changing jobs, but it would require a change of career, and they don’t really know what else they would do. I think it could be good for them, but don’t want to push them into something they don’t want to do.

  • Hi all,

    I’m after a bit of advice. Has anyone here helped their other half through depression? We’ve been together about a couple of years and when we first met were both pretty active people. However, about a year and a half ago they got a foot injury that meant they had to take about four months off work. The doctors and physios didn’t really know what the problem was or how to fix it, lots of conflicting advice. While it’s a lot better than it was, it still flares up if they walk more than a few miles. They’ve not really been running since the injury, we tried a short easy jog through the woods yesterday, which was going well until the foot flared up after a couple of miles.

    Running was their main escape, and work has been pretty crap with lots of stress since going back.…[Read more]